Relationship Advice & Realistic Relationships - Relationship Expert Guy Blews

EVERYTHING IS A CHOICE

GuyBlews — Tue, 15 May 2012 01:01:27 +0000

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Relationship Expert and Certified Life Coach Guy Blews on EVERYTHING IS A CHOICE:

Everything is a CHOICE:

Where you live – in the bustling city or the peaceful countryside…

What you do – work for money or for inner wealth…

How you think – reactively or proactively…

Who you are – a product of others or a design of your own…

It’s all a CHOICE.

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You have a CHOICE – blame others for what ‘happened’ to you, or take responsibility for your actions and the consequences.

You have a CHOICE – fill your life with responsibilities, or simplify your life and enjoy the freedom.

You have a CHOICE – confront your emotions, or cover them up with pills and alcohol.

You have a CHOICE – accept the life you were sold, or design the life you want.

The CHOICE is yours…

Make it. Enact it. Live with it…

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GUY BLEWS is a Certified Life Coach, and a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Coaching. He is the Author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Divorce & How To Avoid It, How To Screw Your Other Half, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are all available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99, or at www.Amazon.com as paperback books. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world. Visionary or pariah? You decide.

SELF WORTH

GuyBlews — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 01:01:16 +0000

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Relationship Expert and Life Coach Guy Blews on SELF WORTH:

We all know that SELF WORTH is an essential part of any successful life.

We also know that our own SELF WORTH is too often wrapped up in other people’s lives – which makes no sense.

SELF WORTH should do what it says – you should value yourself, no matter what… no matter what others think, no matter what job you have, no matter what car you drive, no matter what happens in your life’s journey, no matter what it takes…

This does not mean that you should be an obnoxious, self-righteous egomaniac…

It means you should value and excel at what you do, no matter what it is that you are doing.

Too many times, I deal with clients who are co-dependent upon their partner, or totally dependent upon their financial position, or completely independent of any form of independence.

If you are not able to be proud of who you are, then you have no SELF WORTH.

If you are not able to stand up for yourself, then you have no SELF WORTH.

If you need someone else to complete you, then you have no SELF WORTH.

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Unfortunately, from childhood, we are bred to be dependent instead of independent.

- We are sold the fairy tale of marriage and children as the route to happiness…

- We are fed the lie that marriage is the ultimate validation for any relationship…

- We are miseducated into thinking that other people define us…

And then what happens?

Weakness. Neediness. Expectation. Desperation. Divorce.

If we were able to separate ourselves from the illusion…

If we could accept the reality of human nature and live within the realms of that reality, then we would have far better, far more successful, far longer relationships that created stronger, healthier, happier children…

If we stopped chasing the lies we were sold, then we could enjoy the life we create.

SELF WORTH is built on independence.

SELF WORTH thrives on individuality.

SELF WORTH excels with thought.

SELF WORTH accepts that we are capable alone, yet able to work as team.

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If this is the case, then why would anybody stay with somebody who does not make them feel good?

If this is the case, then why would anyone become reliant upon anyone else?

If this is the case, then why do so many women use marriage as a way to provide themselves with a lack of SELF WORTH?

Being dependent upon someone else is not sexy…

Being relied upon by someone else becomes an irritation…

Being weak and needy is the best way to endure unhealthy relationships…

Being independent and capable is the best way to have SELF WORTH…

Rather than looking for someone else to carry your burdens – try eliminating the burdens you carry.

Rather than creating more and more drama in your life – try creating a life of simplicity and ease.

Rather than expecting other people to fix your issues – try learning from experience.

Rather than being dependent – try becoming independent.

Do not let someone else define the direction of your life – if you are a woman, work on being capable without a man; if you are a man, work on being comfortable without a woman – this will make you stronger, and more attractive.

If each one of us could come from a place that took responsibility for our actions; if we thought about the consequences of our desires; if we accepted the reality of life; if we created our own opinions; then we would have a far better chance of building up our own SELF WORTH which would invite a far stronger individual and a far more attractive person.

Work within reality, and your dreams will come true… one step at a time.

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PURPOSE

GuyBlews — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 01:01:44 +0000

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Life Coach and Relationship Expert Guy Blews on PURPOSE:

IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE CHALLENGED, THEN DO NOT READ THIS -

Do you wonder what the PURPOSE of life is?

Do you ever wonder why you are here?

If so, what conclusions do you come to?

Do you think your PURPOSE is to breed? Despite all the evidence that tells us there are too many humans doing too much damage to a planet that cannot possibly survive with this many people abusing it?

Do you think your PURPOSE is to buy stuff? Despite the fact that everytime you buy one thing there is always something else you want?

Do you think your PURPOSE is to break stuff? Because that’s what most of us do, even though we think we are a positive influence on the world.

Or… could it be that your PURPOSE is to think? Could that be it? Or is that too difficult to actually confront?

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You see, despite all the evidence that shows us how much the human is screwing up the planet, his own emotional state, and every living or inanimate thing that he comes into contact with, it seems to me that there is a disconnect between logic and action.

Allow me to explain -

There are many of you who would claim to be ‘environmentally aware’ – yet, if you actually think about what you do, you should be horrified at how environmentally unfriendly you are. The children you breed, the foods you eat, the packaging you use, the pointless things you buy, the electricity you use, the products you cannot live without, the stuff you must have or use to get through the day, the pointless places you drive to with your kids – each one of these is an environmental disaster, and just because you separate your garbage, you are not doing the best you can for the environment. So, in truth, you are not environmentally aware or environmentally friendly.

Is it not time you were honest with yourself about your behavior?

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There are others of you who would claim that your life is your own, that you are an individual who has their own ideas and opinions – yet, if I ask you about the existence of god, if I ask you why you want to breed, if I ask you whether marriage is a probable part of your future, if I question why you wear that brand of shoes, you will give me formulaic answers that are totally influenced by the opinions and ideas of others. That is not original, or even PURPOSEful. That is PURPOSEless.

Is it not time that you questioned the opinions you were given?

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There are many of you who are extremely sure that your religion is the best, that your nation is the greatest, that your family ancestry is important, that your life will make a difference to those you come into contact with, that your children are just a bit better than the offspring of others, that whatever you do has more relevance than what others do, that the world would be a different place if you were no longer here, that your perspective is the correct one, that you always have the right to do what you want to do, even though Facebook proves you wrong – your page is the same as everyone else’s in your age-range and social standing, take a look, you will be horrified. I was.

Is it not time that you stopped allowing yourself to be the same as everyone else?

I am well aware that the above paragraphs are a little harsh, and that was why I wrote them.

I want you to really look at yourself and to really ask yourself who you are and why you do what you do.

I want you to question everything that you have just accepted up until now, to question why you buy what you buy, why you do what you do, why you think what you think, why you say what you say… why you read what I write!

I want you to realize that following the path you were given by your family, friends, religion and society is not a path that creates a PURPOSEful individual – the path that others follow simply allows you to live a comfortable life already lived by those before you and those around you.

If you have ever wondered what your PURPOSE in life is, might I suggest that your purpose is to think…

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Do you have to have a child of your own? Do you need to waste good money on in-vitro? Do you know that there are children alive right now who want to be loved? Do you ever consider adoption? And if you haven’t, then might I ask you this – why are you so special that we have to have more of your genes on this planet, why are you so much better than the child who needs to be loved, the child that already exists? Think before you waste your money and time on psychopathic, egomaniacal medical procedures… Please.

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Do you look at women with a fancy handbag and find yourself having a twinge of jealousy that is immediately followed by a judgmental thought and probably a rude comment? I know you do. I have seen it many times. Yet, that is still the bag you want, and despite the fact that you judge her for having that bag, despite the fact that you make rude comments, you still think that if you have that bag it will make you better than other people. Really? Think about it, it’s pathetic.

I could go on, but I won’t – I will leave you with these thoughts -

Having a child is about being a good parent, not about having your own child.

Owning quality products is a wise idea, but buying something because of a label is stupidity.

Disliking others because they follow a different religion is moronic, try putting yourself in their position… then you might realize that you are both wrong.

Telling yourself that you are an environmentalist while you breed, feed and need more and more makes a fool of you and a fool of anyone who listens to your drivel.

Living with the agenda of marriage in order to feel secure and validated makes a mockery of your relationship and of yourself.

Perhaps the PURPOSE of your life is to be an individual, to think for yourself, to create a life that was not already planned out for you by your family or society… Perhaps.

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LOCK DOWN

GuyBlews — Sat, 14 Apr 2012 01:01:53 +0000

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Certified Life Coach & Relationship Expert Guy Blews on LOCK DOWN:

Society has miseducated us to be under LOCK DOWN.

We are taught by our society, our religion, our parents and our peers that we should always be looking for a permanent solution to our problems.

Instead of being told the truth – we are sold a lie…

Instead of accepting that change is not only inevitable, and essential – we seek ‘forever’…

Instead of looking forward to new challenges and new situations – we are made to fear anything we do not understand…

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In this day and age of falsehoods, and despite all the evidence to the contrary, parents still preach the old school lie that marriage is a validation, that marriage is good for society, that marriage is essential for parenting, that marriage will be the solution to all your relationship issues.

In this day and age of Guy Blews, with the truth staring you in the face, with reality screaming out to be heard, I will tell you that marriage is the only reason that divorce exists, that a good marriage is not a certainty, that your wedding is just the start of the hard work, that being married does not make you a good parent, that getting married to appease your insecurities is a fool’s logic, that change is gonna come your way whether you like it or not.

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In this day and age of hypocrisy and lies, every relationship is viewed as a permanent instead of a lesson.

In this day and age of blinkered thinking and fantastical story-telling, anyone who does not want to breed is regularly told that “procreation is the only reason we are here” (despite the environmental and population problems the earth faces).

In this day and age of denial and neuroses, it is amazing to me that people still view the end of a relationship as a “waste of time” instead of seeing it as an experience that should help them grow, an experience that should not be repeated with the same person, an experience that will lead them to pastures new.

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- Rather than trying to LOCK DOWN a potential mate – how about granting freedom?

At least then you know that they actually want to be with you…

- Rather than trying to LOCK DOWN your relationship so it is the same as everyone else’s relationshit – how about acting outside the box?

At least then you are carving a path that works for you, not just a path that you were told should work (but doesn’t)…

- Rather than trying to LOCK DOWN your future with a white picket fence, a job, children and debt – how about trying less thing$ more love?

At least then you will have the time to enjoy your friends and family, and at least then you will have time to enjoy your existence instead of being beholden to the whims of society…

If we let go of the agenda, if we stop trying to LOCK DOWN our whole lives from the moment we hit puberty, then we would live far more interesting, varied and unique lives which would be full of change (that we enjoy), full of unknowns (that we would learn from), full of relationships (that would help us grow), full of experiences (that are our own).

LOCK DOWN just leads to melt down which leads to repetition which leads to a waste of an existence.

Allow life to unfold in your own way, and stop following the herd.

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Decide Do Discipline

GuyBlews — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 01:01:12 +0000

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Certified Life Coach Guy Blews on DECIDE DO DISCIPLINE:

There is no point moaning about things if you won’t DECIDE to change your limiting behavior…

Once you DECIDE that you are going to change your ways, then you have to DO whatever it is you DECIDE to DO…

But the important part is the DISCIPLINE – you have to keep DOing the thing you DECIDEd to do…

Make sense?

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Allow me to clarify -

If you put your mind to something, you can usually achieve it…

But, there is a process that needs to be accepted if you are to succeed…

It is not possible to change your life for the better, or to create a change in your life, if you do not clearly DECIDE what that change is going to be.

You have to DECIDE where you want to be or what you want to do.

Once you have made the decision, you then have to actually DO something about it.

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If you have DECIDEd to lose weight, then you have to eat more healthily and exercise more regularly – simply making a decision does not help you lose weight…

If you begin to eat more healthily and exercise more regularly, then you have to be DISCIPLINEd in your execution of the decision…

Losing weight will not happen overnight – it takes time… and, just as you were disciplined about getting fat by over-eating bad foods and under-exercising all the time, so you will have to display reverse-discipline in order to lose weight.

It is easy to make a life-altering decision – it is not so easy to actually make it happen.

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Too many times, a decision is made and nothing is done about it…

Or the hard work begins, but soon after the DISCIPLINE is dropped and the goal is never achieved… Ever heard of a New Year’s Resolution??

Life is full of challenges; temptation to give up is rife; problems persistently get in the way; situations become difficult; challenges arise consistently… which makes it easy to give up… which is where DISCIPLINE comes in.

If you DECIDEd to lose weight, then work out a lifestyle change and stick to the DISCIPLINE – don’t stuff a donut down your throat just because you worked out that day, eat an apple instead – eat healthily and exercise regularly. You can do it.

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However, DECIDE DO DISCIPLINE does not directly apply to relationships and marriage…

Just because you DECIDE you want to be in a relationship, just because you say and DO ‘all the right things’, just because you display DISCIPLINE in your love life, does not mean you will achieve your agenda-driven goal…

Allow me to explain -

When someone else is inextricably involved in the equation of DECIDE DO DISCIPLINE, you allow a variable to be a part of the solution, which means you have an additional problem that you have no control over…

Sure, you can lose weight, meditate everyday, eat well, write a book, start a surf shop, build a house, travel to faraway lands, donate all your money to charity or do innumerable things that you have some sort of control over…

But when it comes to relationships, you have to be slightly more detached if you are to succeed – displaying DISCIPLINE in relationships is not sexy, it is not conducive to true love, it smacks of insecurity and it reeks of agenda – do not do this…

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If you want to succeed in love and relationships, then DECIDE DO DISCIPLINE with your own life, not someone else’s.

Be the best you can be so that other people want to be with you, and then you can be involved in a relationship that is a positive addition to your (now fantastic) existence – a REALISTIC RELATIONSHIP.

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DECIDE DO DISCIPLINE works wonders when it comes to achieving personal goals… but does not work so well with relationships and marriage (as displayed by the outrageous rate of divorce)… however, if you DECIDE DO DISCIPLINE with your own life, you might be amazed at the positive influence it has on your relationship abilities – there is nothing quite like confidence to bring in the love.

DECIDE. DO. DISCIPLINE – a phrase to live by.

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Break A Leg

GuyBlews — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 01:01:45 +0000

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Relationship Expert and Certified Life Coach Guy Blews on BREAK A LEG:

As you may know by now, I have a problem when people say something they do not mean… even if they say it in passing… particularly when everyone seems to say it without thinking.

One of those sayings is, “Break a leg” – which is used as a quip to wish people luck, especially in acting circles.

Break a leg?!

Why would I say, “Break a leg” when I want the best for someone?

Would I say, “Hope you get cancer” when they go for a check up at the Doctor – no, I wouldn’t.

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Somehow, it seems that sayings squirm their way into people’s minds and culture, and even when these sayings make no sense, they seem to be over-used and abused.

I know that the theory behind “Break a leg” is the whole “If I say it, it won’t happen” thing…

But most of the people who say, “Break a leg” will also tell you to think positively if you want to succeed…

You know, “Think positive thoughts!” kind of stuff.

So where is the correlation between “Break a leg” and “Good luck” and “I hope it goes well for you”???

There is none – unless you’re a fool.

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I’m a big believer that we should think before we speak and think before we act…

But society’s little whimsies seem to discourage us from doing that…

We have been so miseducated in the small comments we make and in the mainstream actions that we take, that we have now created a planet where people who cannot look after themselves will own a dog or a cat, others who cannot control their jealousy will get married, those that have a terrible temper will be allowed to breed, and those that have never worked on themselves will try to find love… because that is what society teaches them to do.

Just as society teaches people to say things that make no sense…

Society also teaches people to make decisions they are not fit to make…

Because society doesn’t seem to think much, it just does what everyone else does…

And what everyone else does may not actually make much sense most of the time…

Perhaps, if we thought about what we said, we might think about what we did too.

Just an idea.

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GUY BLEWS is a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Life Coaching. He is the Author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Divorce & How To Avoid It, How To Screw Your Other Half, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99, or at www.Amazon.com as paperback books. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world. Visionary or pariah? You decide.

Over & Out

GuyBlews — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 01:01:51 +0000

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Relationship Expert & Certified Life Coach Guy Blews on OVER & OUT:

The world has gone even crazier than I thought it ever would, and there’s still more to come.

Humans over-breed…

Parents over-indulge their children…

Teenagers and adults over-use drugs and alcohol…

Respected members of society over-promise religion and prayer…

Companies over-process food, and over-sugarize drinks…

Employers and Governments over-sell our careers…

Strangers over-tell their story…

An alarming number of people over-eat…

Too many of us over buy products we do not need (or even use)…

Everybody over-watches TV that offers nothing but mindless garbage…

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Rather than accepting that we do not need most of what we have, we seem to gather, garner and gorge ourselves on the unnecessary…

Rather than looking for ways to make the most of our lives with less – humans have become gluttons for more and more stuff that simply makes humans more and more inept, unhealthy, and incapable…

- From gadgets that open and close garage doors, park and reverse our cars for us, enable us to switch channels by moving our thumb, allow us to believe that we can get a 6-pack by lying down with an electronic belt around our waist …

- To gadgets that chop food in the blink of an eye, ‘cook’ food in 60 seconds, and process food in the most unhealthy way possible…

- We are filling our lives with fake so we can do less and become more and more dependent on the vapid.

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It is better to drink water and thereby consume less sugar and poison…

It is better to eat less, yet consume more nutrition…

It is better to appreciate more and have less…

It is better to listen more and talk less…

It is better to read more and watch less…

It is better to love more and worry less…

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It is better to have less and understand more…

It is better to use less and have more…

And, as I stated clearly and concisely in my book – Less Thing$ More Love – the less things we have the more time we have to do the things we love…

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It is time to stop the consumption.

It is time to think about the outcome.

It is time to be honest with ourselves and to confront the reality – and the reality is that we are making the human race weak…

We are creating nothing but emptiness – whether it be the food we eat, the religion we follow, the promises we make.

There are better choices out there – but we have to choose them – otherwise it’s OVER & OUT for us and our offspring…

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Love Or Avoid

GuyBlews — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 01:01:40 +0000

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Life Coach and Relationship Expert Guy Blews on LOVE OR AVOID:

If you are going to live a life without angst, anger and aggression, you have to simplify.

If you are consistently in a state of irritation, you are going to have to decide.

If you are constantly having arguments, you are going to have to change.

If you want to have a fun-filled life full of love, you have to be proactive.

- I have distilled life into a wonderfully simple formula – LOVE OR AVOID.

Either LOVE the people in your life, or AVOID them.

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If you LOVE them, then LOVE them unconditionally, be happy for them, be proud of them, want the best for them, and above all, enjoy them.

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If you are irritated by the people in your life, then AVOID them – if you AVOID them for long enough, you’ll end up getting rid of them completely, and that’s a good thing.

Now, I am not so naive as to think that we can only LOVE OR AVOID people; I am aware that we live in the real world and we have to deal with real situations; I have a solution for that too -

When confronted with people (at work or at play) who we would rather AVOID, then it simply requires a change of attitude – we just have to remember that this interaction is temporary, not permanent, and therefore we can deal with it because it is unAVOIDable at present and AVOIDable in the end.

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The above advice does not include family issues – these are to be AVOIDed at all costs if they cause pain, suffering, anger or irritation – I have long taught that family members should not be given special abuse priveleges just because “they are family” – that is a fool’s game.

With family issues, I always prescribe AVOIDance – do not endure Thanksgiving, Christmas or Chanukah with people you cannot stand because “they are family”; do not waste days of your life or money in your bank account on people that give you little to no pleasure; do not be suckered into thinking you should be involved with people you have nothing in common with just because “they are family” – that does nobody any favors.

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It is time that we were able to design our lives to suit ourselves rather than accepting the life we were given.

We should spend time with people we LOVE.

We should AVOID all others.

And if we are caught in a situation that requires spending time with people we would rather AVOID, then we should do our level best to keep the interaction quick and painless (or amusing and hilarious).

LOVE OR AVOID is a simple mantra for a simple life that leads to a better quality of living.

Listen. Learn. Enact.

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Sense Of Self

GuyBlews — Sun, 04 Mar 2012 01:01:40 +0000

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Life Coach and Relationship Expert Guy Blews on having a SENSE OF SELF:

We are not taught to have a SENSE OF SELF – we are told to follow the herd.

We are not allowed to expand our SENSE OF SELF – we are encouraged to do as others do.

We are not educated about our SENSE OF SELF – we are miseducated into being an UNdividual.

Men are laden with the responsibility of supporting and providing for a family.

Women are burdened with the validation of marriage and children.

Sometimes, our SENSE OF SELF would tell us that these are not necessarily the best things for us.

But will we listen? Will we act?

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Some people want to travel; others seek solitude; she might want some free time; he might need to feel free of society’s impositions.

And you? What is right for your SENSE OF SELF?

If you were completely honest with yourself, would you be following the path you are on?

Or would you be doing something else that would stimulate your SENSE OF SELF?

- I encourage you to cast off the beliefs, opinions and ideals of others.

- I encourage you to step back and take a look at what you truly want.

- I encourage you to do whatever it is that helps you create and grow your SENSE OF SELF.

Even if you fail, you at least gain a SENSE OF SELF…

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Do not be a product of your society.

Do not be a link in the chain of your ancestry.

Do not live a life already lived by those that came before you.

Discover who you are; design who you want to be; decide to have a SENSE OF SELF.

For your sake. Not mine.

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GUY BLEWS is a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Life Coaching. He is the author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Divorce & How To Avoid It, How To Screw Your Other Half, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99, or at www.Amazon.com as actual books. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world. Visionary or pariah? You decide.

Both Ways

GuyBlews — Tue, 28 Feb 2012 01:01:40 +0000

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Life Coach and Relationship Expert Guy Blews on having it BOTH WAYS:

Most of the time, people want it BOTH WAYS -

They want to be selfish and generous; kind and tough; rich and meek: gentle and strong; fat and sexy; too skinny and hot; monogamous and adventurous; peaceful and powerful…

Unfortunately, life does not allow us to have it BOTH WAYS -

We cannot be powerful without confrontation.

We cannot be monogamous without repetition.

We cannot be too skinny without being unhealthy.

We cannot be fat without being smelly.

We cannot be strong without force.

We cannot be rich without consequences.

We cannot be tough without pain.

We cannot be selfish without sacrifice.

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All in all, it is time that we were honest about the consequences of our actions; it is time to stop kidding ourselves that the way we live is acceptable to everyone else on the planet; it is time to understand that the choices we make prevent us from having everything; it is time that we stood back and observed the truth rather than ignoring what really happens.

You cannot tell your children lies and expect them to make good decisions.

You cannot lie to yourself without being dishonest to those around you.

If you are unhappily married, do not encourage your children to marry.

If parenthood is tough on you – tell your children the truth when they are adults, so they can make an informed decision.

If you allow your children to believe the fairy tales when you know the truth, you do a disservice to the children you brought onto this planet – and that is wrong.

Be honest.

Relationship Expert Guy Blews BOTH WAYS

Stop spending more than you earn and hoping that you will balance your finances, that you will sleep well at night, that you will feel good about yourself.

Stop hoping that the income you have now will last forever – work your hardest… hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

Save some money. Feel the difference.

Life Coach Guy Blews BOTH WAYS

Do not kid yourself that you can have it BOTH WAYS -

Life is full of decisions and every decision will create an action and a reaction.

- If you decide to marry you will either have to deal with one other person for the rest of your life, or you will deal with divorce.

- If you decide to have children you will be responsible for them for the rest of your life, or you will be responsible for a disaster.

- If you ignore the warnings and the reality I place before you on this website and in my books, then you will either live a life already lived or you will wish you had enacted my advice.

Read everything you can, absorb what you read, make up your own opinions.

But stop thinking you can have it BOTH WAYS.

Have it the best way… The real way.

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GUY BLEWS is a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Life Coaching. He is the author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Divorce & How To Avoid It, How To Screw Your Other Half, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99, or at www.Amazon.com as actual books. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world. Visionary or pariah? You decide.