Life-Coach-Guy-Blews SCHOOL OF LIFE

Relationship Expert & Life Coach Guy Blews on THE SCHOOL OF LIFE:

As convenient as SCHOOL may or may not be…

As inconvenient as LIFE may or may not be…

There is one thing for sure – LIFE is a far better teacher than SCHOOL.

Yet, SCHOOL seems to be the education we adhere to, forgetting that LIFE is what we have to deal with.

Isn’t it time that we listened to what LIFE is telling us?

Isn’t it time that we educated our children about LIFE (instead of SCHOOLing them with fairytales)?

Isn’t it time to be honest with ourselves and our children, and actually admit that most of what we accept is a total lie?

The standard education system tells us that success is financial – it totally ignores the physical and the emotional.

The current system of education does not teach anyone how to be a parent – it teaches us how to be dependent.

The American school system is considering pizza as a vegetable because of the tomato sauce – god help me… oh, I forgot, if there was a god, she would not have allowed us to be so f*cking stupid.

When will we actually begin to teach our children what they really need to know?

And when will we start to accept what we already know?

LIFE is difficult – we all know that.

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Relationships are hard work – we all hope not.

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The financial system is a mess – we all wish it wasn’t.

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The health of the population of the United States is a joke – we all laugh at that.

Instead of teaching our children that they should spend more than they earn so they don’t have to confront any form of responsibility; instead of telling ourselves that we know how to parent without even considering how ill-prepared we truly are; instead of pretending that a pill will make us healthy; instead of believing that there is one person on this planet who is perfect for us – why don’t we stop…

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And think…

And look at how LIFE really is…

And then work within the reality of money, health and relationships…

The SCHOOL OF LIFE is very clear if you open your eyes.

The SCHOOL OF LIFE repeats it’s lessons over and over and over again.

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The financial markets go round and round in circles – highs and lows.

Relationships that blossom too soon will implode quickly – the good ones build calmly.

If you eat too much and do not exercise you will be fat – and there are no excuses when it comes to weight.

Start to look at the SCHOOL OF LIFE and you will begin to see that spending more than you earn is a fool’s game; that depending on someone else for emotional or financial stability is a losing game; that refusing to exercise whilst indulging yourself is a fat person’s game; that waiting for someone else to complete you is a weak game.

Don’t be miseducated by the fairytales, the fantasy, the lies, the religions, the hopes and dreams of the past, or the desperation of the future – be intelligent, open your eyes, accept the truth and live by the rules of the SCHOOL OF LIFE.

The SCHOOL OF LIFE rewards the individual, exalts the independent, admires the respectful and encourages fairness for all…

But the SCHOOL OF LIFE does not graduate the weak, the needy or the desperate…

Always maintain a sense of self, a sense of achievement, a sense of independence, a sense of reality and the ability to be better than your past – then the SCHOOL OF LIFE will be worth the cost of the education it delivers.

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GUY BLEWS is a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Coaching. He is the author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world.

Relationship Expert Guy Blews I COULD CARE LESS

Relationship Expert Guy Blews on I COULD CARE LESS:

This post is aimed at my American friends and acquaintances.

If you say “I COULD CARE LESS” then stop.

I COULD CARE LESS makes no sense in the context you are saying it.

I COULD CARE LESS means “I COULD CARE LESS” which does not make sense when you are trying to demonstrate how little you care about whatever it is you are saying you COULD CARE LESS about.

Stop saying “I COULD CARE LESS” and start saying “I COULDN’T CARE LESS”.

**Note the N’T which makes the COULD word into a negative**

I know why you say “I COULD CARE LESS” – because everyone else does…

Just because everyone else says “I COULD CARE LESS” does not mean you should.

“I COULDN’T CARE LESS” is what you mean – because then you are demonstrating how little you care.

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Does this make sense to you now?

Every American I know uses “I COULD CARE LESS” as a throw away line about how little they care, and every time they say it I wince.

If you’re going to say something, at least make sure it makes sense.

If it doesn’t make sense then stop saying it.

Please.

I don’t want to twitch anymore… I don’t want to interrupt you and tell you that you just said something that makes no sense and makes you sound like a dumbass. But I will.

Why does this bother me so much?

Because I cannot stand things that do not make sense.

See where I am going here?

Relationship Expert Guy Blews I COULD CARE LESS

You guessed it – marriage does not make sense.

Marriage is an institution built on insecurity, yet every time I question the point of marriage I am told I am a commitment phobe.

No, I am not a commitment phobe, I am a stupid-decision-phobe.

I am phobic about doing things that other people do without thinking about why they do it or why I should do it…

If your relationship is so great, then why do you need to get married?

If your relationship isn’t so great, then you shouldn’t get married.

End of.

And now, back to the point I was making.

Stop saying “I COULD CARE LESS”.

Start saying “I COULDN’T CARE LESS”.

Relationship Expert Guy Blews I COULD CARE LESS

If you actually think about what you say and think about whether it makes sense instead of copying what other people say then you might start to think about what you do and think about whether the things you do make sense too… And that has to be a good thing.

Words and actions should always go together – say and do what you mean, not what other people made you think it means.

If you think about what you say and do, you might actually realize that most of what you do is because someone else said it was the right thing to do. And most of the time it isn’t the right thing at all, it’s the wrong thing and it makes no sense.

You see, I COULD CARE LESS, and therefore I have to express myself on things that make me care…

If you say “I COULD CARE LESS” but you mean “I COULDN’T CARE LESS” then start thinking before you speak so I do not have to point out that what you said makes no sense.

Thanks.

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Relationship Expet Guy Blews - OWE OR OWN

Relationship Expert Guy Blews on OWN OR OWE:

As the world goes into a financial meltdown, I am not surprised.

What does surprise me is that other people are surprised…

Why would this financial meltdown surprise anyone?

Have you seen how much stuff people have that they do not OWN but they OWE on??!!

In basic terms, if you have not bought something outright, you do not OWN it… But you sure as hell OWE on it.

Whether that be the house you pay a mortgage on, the car you have financed, or the clothes on your back that you paid for with a credit card you have not fully paid off.

If you have not paid for something free and clear, then you do not OWN it… it OWNS you… and you OWE for it.

I know that governments, banks, car dealerships, department stores, computer makers and credit card companies have all sold you a convenient story, but kidding yourself that you OWN something when you have not paid for it in full is a recipe for disaster.

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Houses are in foreclosure – why? Because they were OWNed by people that had not and could not pay for them?

Debt is mounting – why? Because credit cards offer a false sense of superiority that leads to unnecessary purchases. Yes, I wrote superiority – because credit cards allow you to live beyond your means…

Possessions are excessively available, and all the while they are bought by people that cannot afford them and do not deserve them.

Most of the problems people face are brought about by dishonesty – and most of the dishonesty is with the person buying.

If you cannot easily afford it, then do not buy it.

Take the complication out of your life and start to appreciate what you have instead of pretending to be able to afford what you do not need.

Trying to fuck the system will only fuck you up in the end – it really is not complicated unless you refuse to be honest.

Relationship Expert Guy Blews OWE OR OWN

I am fully aware that sometimes we need to borrow money to make a purchase that will ultimately be an investment, and that’s all well and good as long as the payments are affordable and the investment is logical – if you buy a house and you borrow the money, be sure to factor in the taxes, yearly bills and fees, improvement costs and furniture needs – if you buy a house and cannot afford it in the long term you will not only lose the house, you will lose your pride, your health and your peace of mind.

And remember, you do not OWN that house until you have paid it off – so, for 35 years you OWE on the house.

If your mortgage payment does not pay down the principal, then your mortgage payment is a trick that is wasting money.

If you cannot sleep at night because you are worried about your mortgage payment, then your house is not a good investment.

If you are not easily affording the possessions you buy, then the momentary thrill is only going to come back and bite you in the ass.

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Be aware of what you earn and then make sure to spend less – save… and then spend – the loss of anxiety is worth all the money in the world.

Would it not be better to save up for what we want before we buy it?

If we saved our money, then we would have a twofold benefit – we would value what we bought and we would not be in debt.

Why is debt so bad?

Because debt leads to anxiety which leads to illness which leads to hospital bills and more debt which leads to more anxiety…

Before you buy that thing you do not need, try saving up for it first and then seeing if you still want it once you have the money to really OWN it.

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Relationship-Expert-Guy-Blews TROOP WITHDRAWAL

Relationship Expert Guy Blews on TROOP WITHDRAWAL:

Anyone with the ability to think things through can work out that the United States needs to lessen it’s dependence on oil and build up its ability to survive without relying upon hostile friendships.

Anyone with an ounce of objectivity knows that the United States should never have entered Afghanistan or Iraq – and they know that the only reason these wars have prevailed is because of a desperation to control the flow of oil combined with a necessity to control the region in order to sustain the American and European way of greed, I mean life.

Why am I talking about TROOP WITHDRAWAL?

Because it can be related to relationships, of course.

Many relationships are sustained out of desperation.

Many relationships survive through a hostile friendship.

These relationships are uncomfortable and painful for the participants, yet the participants do not end the relationship because they cannot be objective about their situation… Much like the USA cannot be objective about their greed and their need for the oil of the Middle East and beyond.

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If we are objective about our situation we can make far better decisions.

For example – if the USA could see that they are involved in a bad relationship with the Middle East, then they might make better decisions about their energy consumption.

Just as the wife who is being verbally abused, or the husband who is abusing, might make better decisions if they were objective about their situation.

Sustaining the status quo out of fear is the wrong thing to do.

Accepting the status quo because that is how it has always been is lazy and stupid.

Allowing a bad relationship to continue because you refuse to stand up and do the right thing is an outrage (to you and those you love).

It is very easy to see where others are making mistakes because we are removed from the situation and therefore we are objective.

It is not so easy to see where we are making fundamental mistakes when we are being subjective about the situation – we are only seeing it from our point of view.

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The abused wife only sees that her husband provides financial security (she does not see that she is ruining her children’s lives in the process), and the husband who abuses does not see the stress that his anger puts on himself and those around him, he simply relishes the power he wields.

The Middle East uses the USA for financial gain whilst being militarily and politically abused by a nation that has forgotten how much stress their power and control has placed upon its own population (with extreme debt and international bad-blood circling all around).

The TROOP WITHDRAWAL by the USA from Iraq will immediately lessen the financial burden, and will ultimately lead to the USA being viewed in a more favorable light by requiring the USA to create and sustain their own power.

If you are involved in a bad relationship, whether you are the abused or the abuser, it is time for you to enact your own TROOP WITHDRAWAL (for both of your sake’s, and for the sake of your children).

By changing the playing field, by changing the players in the game, by trying something different you will improve your life and the lives of those you are responsible for.

Either way, stand up and fight for yourself, and stop fighting against somebody else.

By extricating yourself from the situation you change the relationship for the better.

Relationship Expert Guy Blews TROOP WITHDRAWAL

Extricate yourself from a bad situation and work out a better way to live.

The USA needs to learn the lesson – they need to stop waging wars in regions they are beholden to for all the wrong reasons, and they need to re-think their game plan on energy consumption.

Couples in bad relationships need to learn the lessons and stop repeating the same mistakes – they need to make sure that they do not allow bad relationships to continue in their life.

If you need to fight to get what you want, then you are in the wrong relationship.

I’m already against the next war.

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GUY BLEWS is a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Coaching. He is the author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world.

Relationship-Expert-Guy-Blews NICE GUYS

Relationship Expert Guy Blews on NICE GUYS:

Why do NICE GUYS finish last?

Because other people walk all over them.

Why do women say they want a NICE GUY but when they meet a NICE GUY they change their mind?

Because NICE GUYS usually come across as sensible, staid and slightly sedated.

Why does being NICE translate into being boring?

Because people are extremely one dimensional when it comes to personality display.

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Once a NICE GUY has sent out the message that he is a NICE GUY, he has basically doomed himself into a life of dissatisfaction – emotionally, sexually, financially…

Does that mean he has to be mean to get what he wants?

No.

He has to be strong.

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A gentleman is a NICE GUY, but a gentleman knows when to be firm and when to be gentle.

If you have to be cruel, dishonorable or unfair in order to get what you want, then you are not a man – you’re an ass.

Life is about balance, about living in the present, about understanding how to behave appropriately at any given moment – knowing that sometimes you should be powerful and at other times you should be silent, sometimes tactile, sometimes a little distant.

It is possible to be a NICE GUY and to still be sexually attractive to women – it simply requires that the NICE does not overtake the fun, the cool and the strong.

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The NICE GUY has to work on his appearance and he has to make sure that he does not revert to a conversational style that is too predictable and dull – looking a little different is a good thing, being a little irreverent can work in the NICE GUY’S favor.

If the NICE GUY is too NICE, then he is perceived as weak; but if the NICE GUY is suddenly able to switch on the man in him, he will be seen as confident and desirable… just be sure that the transition is smooth, and not too unpredictable.

It requires a delicate understanding of the female to know when and how to switch off the NICE and turn on the strong, but with a little thought, the NICE GUY can be turned into the perfect mate for a woman who wants something good in her life.

For more information on how not to be a NICE GUY who loses – contact me…

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GUY BLEWS is a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Coaching. He is the author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world.

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Relationship Expert Guy Blews on STATISTICS:

There is a STATISTIC that says ‘people in happy marriages live longer’.

This STATISTIC is touted by the pro-marriage lobbyists as a reason to get married.

What about the people in UNhappy marriages? There are way more of those to deal with.

This STATISTIC about marriage and longevity is not a STATISTIC at all - it’s the logical outcome of a basic premise.

If you are happy you are more healthy, if you are healthy you live longer – logic – nothing more, nothing less.

The same STATISTIC also suggests that single people are not as happy as married people.

This STATISTIC hints that single people are unhappy, miserable little trolls with no hope of ever being happy.

I agree.

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What? I agree that single people are unhappy, miserable little trolls?!

That’s outrageous.

But it’s basically true – through no fault of the single person…

Single people are made to feel as if something is wrong with them because they are single…

Single people are prodded for being ‘single’ and not married, as if there is something wrong with them.

And the prevalent ‘wisdom’ on singledom seems to drag the singles down with it…

Single people slowly drift into a state of discontent because they have not been validated by marriage.

This is a vicious circle started by a STATISTIC that society is happy to encourage; a STATISTIC that holds no water because most marriages are not happy at all.

Time to challenge the STATISTIC, and the conventional ‘wisdom’.

Time to wake up to reality.

The reality is this – you will be a singleton at some point in your life… either for a short while, or for a longer while.

And your attitude will make all the difference when you are single.

You can either drag yourself into a hole of self-reprimanding depression about singledom…

Or you can flip the ‘wisdom’ and see yourself as bigger than any STATISTIC.

- You do not need marriage to be happy.

- You do not need marriage to live longer – in fact, marriage will probably make you wish you were going to live shorter.

- You do not need to jump from one relationship to another – you would do better to spend some time as a ‘single’ in between relationships.

What you need is a change of perspective.

Relationship Expert Guy Blews STATISTICS

A change of perspective will give you a change of attitude which will give you a boost in confidence and a reason to enjoy your space, freedom and singledom.

* For the record, I view the word ‘single’ as the worst way to describe yourself – I preach and teach that you should always be ‘multiple’; not multiple like a slut or a stud, but ‘multiple’ like a person who has multiple options and opportunities, multiple choices and chances. Tell people you are ‘multiple’ and they will immediately want to know more… Tell people you are single and they will pity you. (See blog on MULTIPLE).

If you allow a STATISTIC to make a decision for you then you are going to end up miserable and married… not just miserable.

If you accept that a STATISTIC is a good reason to make a counter-intuitive decision, then you deserve to be miserable and married.

If you refuse to challenge this STATISTIC then you will end up on the stepping stones followed by the rest of your family and friends which has led to a large (and unacceptable) majority of them being miserable and divorced because they thought marriage would make them feel better (and they were wrong).

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I would like you to challenge the conventional wisdom; to realize that your marriage will not make you happy – your attitude and effort will.

I would like you to challenge the STATISTICS; to realize that being unmarried does not make life all doom and gloom – if you embrace your freedom, build up your confidence and look after yourself, then you can live a happy, healthy and wealthy life whichever way you choose to go – ‘multiple’ or married – although I would always encourage ‘multiple’ over married.

63% of STATISTICS are made up on the spot.

I just made that up.

Don’t allow STATISTICS to shape your life – make up your own opinions, develop your own style of lunacy, live for yourself and include others in your happiness.

By embracing every stage of your life, by refusing to be weighed down by STATISTICS, by letting go of the agenda, you will find that every situation is an opportunity, and every opportunity is a pleasure.

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GUY BLEWS is a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Coaching. He is the author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world.

Relationship-Expert-Guy-Blews BREEDING LIMIT

Relationship Expert Guy Blews on BREEDING LIMITS:

Should we exercise restraint in our breeding practices?

Should there be a limit on how many children we should each have?

Should we follow the policies of China with their one child per household limit?

Yes. Probably. Possibly.

I am well aware that many humans feel that the only reason we are here on earth is to procreate – to ensure that the human race survives.

I am also aware that most humans have a need to protect their genetic immortality – which is why the need to breed is so powerful.

Women who do NOT wish to breed often tell me that they are scorned when they express this view – as if they are wasting their time on this planet by not ensuring the survival of the species.

From where I stand, it appears that the best way for us to destroy this species is to keep on breeding at the rate we are.

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I have often expressed my view that humans are the most efficient bacteria on this planet – and like any good bacteria we are destroying our host without regard for the consequences.

In fact, I would go so far as to argue that the best thing that could happen to this planet would be the destruction of human beings all together – if you were Mother Nature, you would agree, but as a human being you might think that this view is a little extreme… until you think about it. I did not say it would be the best thing for you, I said it would be the best thing for this planet.

Looking at this subject objectively, it is easy to see that the biggest problem the earth faces is over-population – it is also the biggest problem that humans face because the rapid growth of our species is not only destroying the environment, the water supply, the climate, the animals and the overall pattern of nature; it is destroying our ability to actually think about what we are doing and why we are doing it.

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As much as we scorn China for imposing a one child per household rule, if we step back a little, we can see that this idea is not so bad after all – it is just the consequences that have proven to be so devastating and disastrous.

With a population of over a billion, China has to do something to slow population growth – this is their duty.

The sad part of this rule is that most families want boys, not girls, in order that the ‘family heritage’ is preserved – and because of this, many baby girls are murdered or abandoned to provide the parents with the option to try again and hopefully ‘procure’ a baby boy.

As disgusting as this is, there is an explanation for this horrific behavior – the stupidity of society.

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The stupidity of society can be further diminished into one word – marriage.

For, it is marriage that causes these families to murder and abandon their children – if it was not for the fact that marriage is what we base our heritage upon, if it was not for the fact that most women change their last name to their husband’s last name thereby losing their identity and their ancestry, then these babies would not be so disposable.

It is marriage that creates the problem of needing a boy rather than wanting a girl.

If humans were not so hell-bent on their own importance, then the gender of a child would not matter.

Unfortunately, society teaches that a male heir continues the family tree and a female is only the transportation for that family name, heritage and importance – we have children being murdered to protect the ancestry of one family over another.

But if we actually took a moment to think about it, we would realize that a child is inherently more a part of its mother than of its father – the child is carried in the mother’s belly, attached to an umbilical cord and dependent upon her for survival even after birth… The logic of a child taking it’s father’s name is illogical at best.

In the end, all of this boils down to ego, and stupidity.

And it is not only stupid, it is sick.

If the children of the Chinese did not carry one name over another, then it would not matter whether the child was a boy or a girl.

If, for example, the child’s name was an amalgamation of each parent’s name, then the child would be a combination of each partner, not just a limb on the family tree of the male side of the family.

Nobody cares about your ancestry apart from your family – unless you are the member of a royal family, in which case some historians might care, along with some other people who refuse to live in the present and continue to look backwards for answers to current problems.

Do you care about my family history? I hope not. Because I do not care about yours (in the nicest way possible).

Relationship Expert Guy Blews BREEDING LIMIT

With this massive problem facing the human race which the human race is creating, perhaps we should have some limit on how many children each family is permitted – perhaps we should take action and deal with the reality of over-population rather than the fantasy and history of a family tree.

Whether we like it or not, each one of us, and every family unit is as messed up as the other – take your pick on which brand of lunacy you prefer…

Bearing in mind that every child born is an environmental disaster on it’s own, let’s have a scenario where we put a limit on how many kids we can each have (especially if you claim to be an environmentalist).

Let’s say the limit is 2.

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In my experimental scenario, each family is allowed to breed twice – seems fair to me (of course it would, it’s my scenario).

We don’t really need more than 2 children in this day and age, it’s not like the mortality rate is as high as it once was…

Now, stick with me here -

Let’s say a couple has 2 children, both boys; and yet they want a girl (an understandable desire).

What’s the solution when this couple has used up their ‘quota’?

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Solution – adopt.

If you already have 2 kids and you want more, then you have to adopt – you have to help a child in need without adding to the population problem.

Now this should not be a problem to any rational human – after all, parenthood is about raising a child, and raising a child is about nature and nurture. Every child on this planet is effected by it’s genetic make-up, but it is also severely effected by it’s upbringing, surroundings, opportunities and possibilities.

So, before you use the argument that you don’t want to raise some kid whose parents you do not know – stop and ask yourself, “What’s so great about me that I need to keep reproducing?” And then ask yourself, “If I am so great, then shouldn’t I offer those benefits to a child in need, a child without parents, a child that is already here, before I create another environmental disaster?”

Think about that for a second, would you?

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We have a massive environmental problem.

We have an enormous population problem.

We have millions of children without parents, homes, food and shelter.

Shouldn’t we deal with the problem at hand rather than reproduce, and thereby produce more problems we cannot handle?

Although I am not much of a fan of communism, and I do believe in freedom of choice, I am a proponent of insisting that the choices we make are made with an eye on the bigger picture – not just on the individual’s point of view, needs, idiosyncrosies or stupidity.

Choices we make should always be made in consideration of others – if you are causing harm to others with your choices then you should reconsider your actions.

If we cannot self-regulate when it comes to breeding, then perhaps we should instigate a BREEDING LIMIT.

And before you call me a psycho, a communist, a fascist or a lunatic, take a step back and take a look at the issue at hand – what would you do to create a solution rather than creating one environmental problem after another?

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Relationship-Expert-Guy-Blews A GREAT RELATIONSHIP

Relationship Expert Guy Blews on A GREAT RELATIONSHIP:

We all strive to have A GREAT RELATIONSHIP…

Unfortunately, we are not told how to have one (or two or more) -

* note, I did not use the word ‘find’ – you do not ‘find’ A GREAT RELATIONSHIP, you work at it, and you create it.

But how? How do we have, create and work at A GREAT RELATIONSHIP?

For starters, it does not come about because of someone else – it happens because of you, because you have decided to work on who you are, how you behave, the way you react, where you want to be, and with whom you want to be.

A GREAT RELATIONSHIP comes from a place of self-awareness and self-responsibility.

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- once you work on your self-awareness, you can work on what you need to improve and on what you need to maintain.

- once you decide to have a sense of self-responsibility, you can stand up for yourself without needing someone else to fix, save or complete you, you are now responsible for your own actions, reactions, incomes and outcomes.

So - A GREAT RELATIONSHIP starts with YOU.

A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is created from a foundation of YOU – from a place of strength.

Basically, A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is the relationship you have with yourself – once you have A GREAT RELATIONSHIP with yourself, then you will only ever have A GREAT RELATIONSHIP with someone else because your standards will be raised, and your decisions will be based on the truth (not on desperation or expectation).

- We are bred to be weak and needy, to look for someone else to make our life better, or even complete us; we are told that a partner will build us up and that children will complete us, that others are the reason we are here, that being alone is lonely, that spending time alone is odd, that space is not a good thing – and each one of these things is detrimental to us finding A GREAT RELATIONSHIP.

Of course, spending time with people is important – it gives us a sense of value, a sense of connection, a great deal of love…

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But spending time alone is even more important – it is not until we are alone that we can truly work on who we are and why we do the things we do or say the things we say.

When we are alone, we have to confront our demons and we have to be honest with ourselves and we have to work out what we can do to improve who we are and where we are.

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We also have to have space in our relationships – for two reasons: space provides us with the opportunity to miss the person we love, and space provides us with the chance to exercise our freedom – without space, our relationships become numb, oppressive and stagnant.

If we do not know how to be alone, if we do not learn to enjoy our space, if we refuse to give and take freedom within our relationships, then we will never be able to handle A GREAT RELATIONSHIP even if it jumped on top of us and pinned us down.

Moreover, if we have not worked out our strengths and weaknesses, if we have not attempted to overcome our demons, if we have not learned to express ourselves as individuals, then we are never going to be able to be great parents or have A GREAT RELATIONSHIP with our children.

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A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is about communication and compromise – you have to be able to communicate your wants, needs and desires; you have to be able to accept your partner’s wants, needs and desires, and then be prepared to work together.

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A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is about equality and enhancement – you have to exist as equal partners on as many levels as you can; you have to enhance each other’s lives in every way you can.

If your relationship is built on control, fear or insecurity, then your relationship is doomed – it might survive but it will not be a success.

If you need marriage as a way to ensure the continuation of your relationship, then you have a relationship built on control, fear or insecurity – if you refuse to live with control, fear or insecurity then you do not need marriage.

If you need your partner to marry you in order to have children, then you should not breed with this person – imagine that marriage did not exist, would you still have children with them? If not, do not procreate and do not get married.

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A GREAT RELATIONSHIP does not need marriage – it needs variation with consistency - and that goes for your personal life, your work life, your sex life and your love life.

A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is built between two individuals – two people that can survive alone yet thrive with each other.

A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is easy to imagine; A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is easy to understand; A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is not so easy to enact.

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A GREAT RELATIONSHIP is yours for the taking if you will let go of the childhood brainwashing and start to work on your own brand of lunacy.

A GREAT RELATIONSHIP – go create one with yourself first, and with others next.

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Relationship Expert Guy Blews on MY PHILOSOPHY:

I do not believe in marriage. Or religion.

I do not believe that marriage makes you a good partner, or a good parent.

I do not believe that religion makes for better people or better societies – in fact, I believe that religion is divisive and destructive.

I do not believe that we are encouraged to be individuals who are taught to stand up for ourselves and take responsibility for our own life – it seems to me that we expect someone else to complete us… and that, in my mind, is our downfall.

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Our downfall? Why? Because we are bred to be needy, and weak – we are not encouraged to be strong and independent.

If we were encouraged to be strong and independent then we would not need marriage, or religion – we would simply need to develop our own individuality.

If we wanted to breed, then we would do it with someone who would make a good parent and we would be prepared for their worst traits whilst encouraging their best possibilities – but we would not rely on them to be there for all time, so we could cope when reality strikes and we are left ‘holding the baby’ as it were.

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MY PHILOSOPHY is based on HOPE FOR THE BEST – PREPARE FOR THE WORST

Depressing – no.

Realistic – yes.

Workable – definitely.

When we are able to survive alone, without needing another, we suddenly find that others want to be around us, they want to help, they want to be a part of whatever it is we have.

When we are weak, needy, clingy and desperate, we find that people avoid us, our desperation stinks, our neediness is a turn off, our clingyness is a repulser, our weakness is a negative trait.

Movies, fairytales and pop songs teach us that someone else will complete us; that weak people are sent to help us be a better person; that bad people are sent to test our goodness; that things happen for a reason – MY PHILOSOPHY disagrees.

MY PHILOSOPHY encourages you to find people that treat you as an equal, people who enhance your life – in this way, your life is great as it is, and anyone you invite into your world just makes it even better.

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NOTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON – IT HAPPENS BECAUSE YOU ALLOW IT TO

MY PHILOSOPHY does not allow you to point the finger, or blame another for your decisions.

- If your husband ends up being a bad Dad, then that is your fault for choosing him as a parent.

- If your wife ends up being a useless partner, then that is your fault for accepting her weakness into your life.

- If you allow someone else to ruin your life then that is your choice – and there is only one fool in that equation.

We KNOW when something is wrong, when someone is not right for us – but we are taught to override our gut instinct and go with the lies and fabrications of society and religion – and this is where we need to be honest with ourselves and our children.

- There is no point pretending that the ways of the past will work in the present.

- There is no point pretending that humans have the ability for lifetime monogamy (as the fairytales tell us).

- There is no point pretending that change will somehow pass us by once we are married and settled – life is all about learning from change – change is not only inevitable, it is essential.

MY PHILOSOPHY does not allow you to pawn your issues onto another – nobody should be there to fix, support or save you – it is up to you to confront your issues and deal with them.

MY PHILOSOPHY encourages you to seek out what is right for YOU – not what is right for your parents, your partner, your society or your religion.

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MY PHILOSOPHY is about strength -

- it is about building strong women that do not need men to marry them as validation…

- it is about creating gentlemen that know how to treat women whilst encouraging women to be self-reliant…

- it is about developing relationships that stand the test of time because they are built on the truth – and the truth is that every relationship progresses one day at a time…

- it is about letting go of the agenda because an agenda does not follow what is going on now – an agenda is based upon where this will end up.

MY PHILOSOPHY encourages you to be an individual who makes decisions based on your truth, based on your opinions, based on who you are – I despise the lies of religion, the expectations of society, and the bad influence of parents that do not allow their child to develop their own skills for their own life.

MY PHILOSOPHY does not impose upon your individuality – it challenges your life choices so that you make better decisions for you and for your children.

MY PHILOSOPHY may not be your philosophy, but MY PHILOSOPHY wants your philosophy to be based upon strength, individuality and honesty – and nothing more.

That’s MY PHILOSOPHY – what’s yours?

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Relationship Expert Guy Blews on OPINIONS:

There’s a saying – opinions are like assholes, everybody has one.

The problem is, it seems to me that everyone has the same one… the one they were given… the one their parents, society or religion taught them.

Finding an original OPINION is hard enough.

Finding someone who actually enacts their OPINION is even harder – even if it is the OPINION they were given.

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Having an OPINION that your parents gave you is not having an OPINION – it is having a miseducation. When your divorced parents encourage you to marry and then they turn up at your wedding, they have just proven themselves to have no relevant OPINION, and they have ruined your life with their OPINION (that you refused to question).

If a divorced parent does not actively discourage their child from marriage, then they are a parent who is not doing what is best for their child – they are simply spouting an OPINION they were given (and have not thought about) despite their own experiences.

Understanding that change is essential and marriage is unnecessary is not hateful – it is logical and truthful.

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Having an OPINION that your society is better than someone else’s is not having an OPINION – it is about being prejudiced, and it is exactly the sort of thing that causes 9.11 – by chanting for your nation, team or society over another, you are just shouting about your ignorance and noisily proving your stupidity.

If you were raised in another country, or another State Of The Union, you would think that where you were raised was better than where you are now – yes, even Libyans think Libya is a great country and are proud of where they came from… shocking I know, considering the mess they let themselves wallow in for so long; but that’s what not thinking about your OPINION gets you.

Being a critic of your own nation and society is not unpatriotic – it is intelligent.

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Having an OPINION on religion is usually based around whether or not one religion is better than another, whether this religion will get you into heaven or that religion will get you 73 virgins – either way, following any religion is not about having an OPINION, it is more about following a belief system you were forced into as a child; and if you changed religion as an adult, you are still following an OPINION that someone else made up before you even considered it.

Find me a religious person who can make sense of their doctrine and I will find you a lunatic – nobody follows their religion word for word, they are just following someone else’s OPINION that is convenient for right now.

Realizing that your religion is as hateful and divisive as every other religion is not blasphemous – it is thoughtful.

If only everyone had an OPINION they based on their own experiences.

If only the OPINIONS we held were not rammed down our throats.

If only OPINIONS were like assholes – at least they would expel the crap.

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Guy Blews is a Relationship Advice and Dating Advice Expert that offers One-On-One Coaching. He is the author of Marriage & How To Avoid It, Realistic Relationships and Less Thing$ More Love which are available at his website (www.RealisticRelationships.com) for $9.99. He has been an energetic host and an interestingly controversial guest on numerous television and radio shows throughout the world.